My baby girl, Ziggy, died suddenly and unexpectedly two months ago. Her death left me and my other CAG, Bubba, devestated.

I am trying my best to help Bubba though this. He appears so "lost" now. I know he is looking for her. He flies to her cage and looks for her. He always wanted to go into her cage while she was alive and I would not let him. Now when he flies to her cage, I have opened her door, but he will not go in there. He calls her name, while looking around the room as if he is looking for her to be flying around. He never did her specific "calls" until after she died. He does her whistles and calls as if he is calling to locate her.

I am spending more time with him. Her toys are still hanging in her cage the way that she liked them. I have not been able to take anything down yet.

I don't know how to make him understand what happened. Does he think that we took her away? Is he feeling insecure because of that? How do I help to alleviate his confusion of where she went? How do I make this easier on him?

I am devestated by her loss. I know Bubba is also.

I would appreciate any advise and suggestions. Thank you.

Oh my gosh I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't even begin to imagine how difficult this time is for you. I feel so bad for Bubba as well. I'm sure he's confused. Sorry but I haven't had to deal with a fid losing a buddy so I'm not sure what you should do. Bubba and yourself are in my thoughts and prayers.

I am so sorry for your loss. Ziggy was very loved and this has to be so difficult for everyone. I also have not had to deal with this. It's probably going to take time for everyone to adjust to the changes in the house.

Thank you Kris. I appreciate your response and prayers. That means alot to me.

The picture of your Grey is beautiful. What a cutie.

I'm so sorry for your loss and feel for you and Bubba. Time heals, but times passes slowly after a loss of a loved one. Give Bubba extra love and love from Ziggy everyday, it will help you both through this period in time.

Thanks Karen. The healing process has begun. Your support means alot.

Ok, well, I'm sure Bubba may not be aware of "exactly" what is going on. I would give him the space and the time to grieve her absence, that he needs. It's only fair to Bubba. But, I personally know you have given him this time.

If Bubba knows you well enough, which I know he does, then he does not think you took Ziggy away. Be secure in Ziggy's passing. If Bubba observes you being secure in her passing, he will also. Hang in there. This can't be easy and we don't expect you to see it as such. This is why we are here. For you..... For Ziggy......For Bubba.

We have to do certain things, to heal ourselves. One of those things is to let out our grief, and give voice to our sorrow. Whether that means crying, screaming, talking with a counselor or simply writing in your journal, letting the grief out is important. It's natural, and it's how we get through. It's how we heal. You are still blessed with your baby who is also experiencing a loss, and supporting each other through love will assist you in healing. In my experience, knowing that our loved ones have not really gone unless those who loved them forget. Remember all the good times and know that those memories will always be with you. When I lost my baby son, I had to actually pack away his toys to move on.

Gary,
I talk to Bubba about Ziggy. I am trying to tell him what happened. I don't want him to think that she is just gone and forgotten.

After Ziggy died, I came home from the Vet. Hospital and without me telling him, Bubba said to me..."Ziggy go home". I told Bubba he was right that Ziggy went to her forever home over the Rainbow Bridge. I told him that she is waiting there for us, as someday we will join her and see her again. When he said that it was kind of wierd...it was like he knew exactly where she went.

Thank you for your support during this difficult time.

JR,
I am so sorry for the loss that you suffered. I do apprecite your thoughts on this.
Another friend had made the suggestions of packing away the toys. When you gave that suggestion also, I am going to try to do some of that tomorrow with Bubba. Maybe it will help us both.
Thank you for sharing your experience and advise. It is much appreciated.